Sunday, February 24, 2013

When Technology Does Not Work

My cable and Internet were out the other day.  You wouldn't think this is a huge deal, but I suddenly felt like I was in some sort of survivalist scene.  Anything I could think of to do was somehow not an option for me, and I was at a loss for what to do.  Eventually, I cradled my phone for dear life and kept myself entertained with Youtube videos.

I even wanted to make a comic about my feelings but realized I couldn't post it without my precious Internet.

I unplugged and plugged the cords to my cable and my router before calling the company (because I didn't want to look like a moron) and then I spent an hour and a half on the phone with the cable tech as he instructed me to continue unplugging and plugging things.

The next day they came out, and apparently the windstorm from the night before had pulled the wires from the connection outside my house.

All is well again, but I am still stocking up on toilet paper and bottled water in case I have to survive something like this again in the future.

Please don't steal my drawings.  They may be crappy, but they are my crappy drawings.  If you use them, please attach a link to where you got them.  :)  Or I will murder you in your sleep.

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Nice Guy Myths Part II: (Dude, Seriously, It Might be You)

Myth #3: Falling in Love Often- Means the Same thing as Loving Deeply… Because I’m Such a Nice Guy

If you walk into each new dating situation believing you may have found the future mother (or father) of your children, then you probably don’t even notice the actual woman (or man) who is in front of you… who she is, what she likes, her quirks, or her passions.   

It is likely you are so focused on finding "A" woman to fit into your future that you wouldn’t know the right woman if she smacked you upside the head. 

If you find your heart is being broken every other week, then it is likely you are giving your heart away with waaaaaay too much ease, and possibly for no greater reason than “Ug... you woman (or man).  You complete me.”

You don’t meet a person once a month who is worthy of receiving your pin number or computer password, so why give over something as precious as your heart to every cute person who says yes within a couple weeks’ time?

If your love life looks like this, then being “too nice” is not your problem.
1 Day Later
5 Days Later
3.5 Days Later
The Next Day...
The Next, Next Day...
One Week Later


If this level of love desperation is occurring in your life, then it is likely that the woman (or man) in your life knows… and your presence smells like that of a wounded zebra slowly dangling behind the herd.  We can smell it, and our primal instincts are telling us to promptly look at that tree over there with that neat leaf that turned orange even though we are still a month away from Autumn and pretend we don't see you.
 We know the buzzards are circling, and we have no interest to be generic woman #22 who said yes. 
We want to be the woman you WANTED to say yes.

Oh yeah, and being nice is not synonymous with being a stalker.

In Conclusion:
This isn’t to say don’t take chances, don’t give your heart away, or that you should immediately harden your heart and make the *&%$#$#  EARN that  %$#$@!  It is saying to have some discernment.  Maybe discover if you actually like the person (you know, for WHO they are instead for simply being in front of you) before you start crossing over into the land of the L-word. 
And please... talk to the person before updating your Facebook status. 
You're Welcome.

Nice Guy Myths Part I: (Maybe it's You)

I’ve heard a lot from self-proclaimed “nice guys” about how their relationships don’t work BECAUSE they are nice guys.  They decided girls are self-loathing, evil people who only want guys who treat them like dirt.  
While these girls (and guys) do exist, it is my belief they are the minority. Though, don’t get me wrong, a lot of girls (and guys) do like a sprinkle of naughty in the nice mates they choose.   People don’t want ALL nice ALL the time (wink wink).

DISCLAIMER:  *WARNING* WARNING*:  I am not at all saying that nice guys (or girls) have it equally as easy or easier than bad boys (or girls).  There have been plenty of times when I've wondered WHY cool guys were dating horribly jerky girls.

What gets me about the “nice guy” myth is that “nice guys” (and girls) seem to believe that being nice is their only flaw.  Like,
"OooOOOooh, she would have been mine if I
wasn’t so friendly and caring!" 

Yeah, women (and men) totally hate friendly and caring... Be gone, evil beast!

I personally don’t see many people (who aren’t severely damaged) running far and fast from kindness and caring. 

Myth #1:  Nothing Else is Wrong With You
Maybe something like this is happening instead:

Sorry Nice Guys (and girls), but what may really be happening here is a severe lack of introspection and self-reflection.  Similar to how in job interviews there is always that one dork face who claims his only flaw is perfectionism. 
Yeah, bosses totally hate perfectionists. 

Maybe it is easier to think that the opposite sex isn’t that into you because you are SO overqualified instead of actually looking inside yourself and seeing if there is something to improve.

Myth #2: Being “Nice” and Being a Pushover is Basically the Same Thing 
Lacking a spine, or dating while constantly in fear that you’ll do something wrong to upset your date isn’t the same as being nice.

I’ve never hung out with a girl (pardon my anecdotal evidence)  who spent our coffee time complaining that a guy complimented her, opened her door, laughed at her jokes, or cared about her interests.

However, here is an example complaint I have heard before:

You can be a wonderfully kind a loving guy (or girl) and still have your own passions, beliefs, preferences, opinions, and choices.   Frankly, a lot of girls (and guys) think it is cool when you can hold your own in a healthy debate/discussion or introduce her to something she never thought she’d do before.

 To Be Continued...

Saturday, December 8, 2012

When Kindness plus Honesty Goes Terribly Wrong

We are raised to find kind things to say about people.  We also know that we should strive to be honest.  These two traits do not always go together.

I have had several instances this past week in which very nice, polite people were either trying to compliment me or behave empathetically toward me, and well, the result was like, “Oh… heh heh, how awesome.”  Then I proceeded to plan out which food would properly drown out my feelings for the evening.

For instance, I was leaving the house to see some friends of mine, and I was feeling little sassy.  Nothing big… but I took the extra time to straighten my hair, put on a little mascara and lipstick, added a cute necklace and selection from my high-self-esteem shirts.  I was mostly feeling pretty good that evening. 

But things were about to go terribly wrong, in the kindest possible way.
I blame the fact that I have gorgeous friends. >.>
The End.

Thursday, November 29, 2012


I have nothing terribly fascinating to say today, so I thought I'd share what I wore on Halloween while passing out candy.  The trick-or-treaters seemed to like it.   I really wanted to get a Slenderman costume, but that seemed like a lot of effort to put in for a nerd like me who was only going to spend Halloween at home watching Top Chef or something.

My LootCrate Red Vs. Blue Entry

Epic boxes of geeky loot goodness.   It does not get any better than that!  Well, except for winning epic gift cards of gamer awesomeness.   I would love to get GW2 and hang out with my guild on the off chance I get any free time ever.  I kind of fizzled out of SWTOR, and it would be nice to hang with my nerd friends again.

I hope this photo finds its way to the awesome folks of LootCrate.